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The story of living with inattentive ADHD


“The story of living with inattentive ADHD is a life-long battle gain respect for and acceptance of being different, not understood” how I identify myself in your story.”


I am very grateful that somebody I can mirror myself and feel with dare tell his story. It helps me to tell mine, recently experienced and still. I am 55 years old male, diagnosed wrongly for 15 years with bipolar type II, hypoactive. Even, I got the worst nightmare of a struggle of being heard, never taken seriously. Two times diagnosed right, inattentive ADHD. Previously known as ADD the mix-up name is confusing. Many people with inattentive ADHD feel the term “hyperactivity”, the condition has misrepresented their struggles.

The opposite behaviour of ADHD and inattentive ADHD often misunderstood.

When laypeople hear about ADHD, they automatically think “hyperactivity”. They don’t understand the subtleties of the different presentations. Of course, you don’t have to share your diagnosis with anyone, but if you choose to, you can elaborate a little and explain that it’s inattentive ADHD, which helps clarification straight away. My feeling mirror the tests in the past and present. Additionally, the score of 7.0 Asperger syndrome test performed. It is the lowest grade.

It is difficult to know where the shoes hurt when not wearing.

And the core is how others perceive those with different skills and mindset. That the standards are not the need to be understood, However, respected for and tolerated. Therefore those who got the authority to help, make it hard to be understood and why medication is crucial to get a life worth living. Since this the core, I gave up those supposed to help and stay away. The people that supposedly role is a helper start asking what I have done, why the hell professionally is judgemental and narcissistic made my life a hell when it could have been a paradise. Inattentive ADHD is mental isolation of feeling different rather than accepted experienced such. The feeling of marginalised and not understood is the core of the state of mind. The difference isolated without food or medication since October is another issue.

Especially now, in a lockdown feared for life with several days without food, I do everything asked, filling out emergencies for a place to stay, and so on. On Friday, two weeks after applying for emergency money to buy food. During last week lockdown, I was overseen by the helper supposed, while friends in social media helped me. On Friday I gave up as the final people I called unable to take messages etc. I laid on the bed 10 in the morning after walking to the office I felt in the cold dizzy afterwards. I thought for a long time, I had it and was satisfied and grateful for letting me stay here. The silence of me crying slept for 30 minutes, suddenly woke up with a terrible pain in my mouth, one of the teets broken to pieces. Spitted out and took on clothes and walked out as I wanted to find a place to rest without somebody ruining my right to disappear.

Why not say it as it is. The feeling of freedom came giving up my desires.

I thought trying to use my card in the cash machine no payment, only three Euros. It was 15 degrees below took a bus without any destinations for the first time in life free from the emotional prisons, and I had no desires, nothing to fear felt untouchable and protected. I am here still, need to tell the story as mum left food in the place. My friend who got the same issues sometimes turns off mobile, protecting a 13-year-old daughter traumatised by violence. She called me back, and we meet in a few hours. She is probably the only one I share the story with and honestly meet with trust and an open mindset. Thanks for telling our story. Appreciated by I believe those in the same situation. The difficulties of a lockdown that proves to kill those at the bottom of the pyramid


What is the difference between the inattentive, impulsive and hyperactive?

  • Using the Term Attention Deficit Disorder
    • You can still use the term ADD, and people will almost certainly understand you. Most healthcare workers use ADD to mean inattentiveness and use ADHD to describe someone with hyperactivity.
    • Some people use ADD and ADHD interchangeably. However, if you can make the mental switch from ADD to ADHD, it will help avoid potential confusion and keep you up to date with the most current terms.
  • Name change as more research carried out.
    • ADHD has had several name changes in the last three decades, and more research carried out. The understanding grows, and the name changed to reflect that knowledge.
    • ADHD is now the official name of the disorder. However, many people still use the term ADD, the formal name from 1980 to 1987.
    • Some people get angry or frustrated when they hear that ADD and ADHD are the same. They feel that the “H,” which stands for hyperactivity, do not accurately describe them or their child.
    • Understanding the evolution of the changes in the name can help.
  • A Brief Timeline of the Changing Name of ADHD
    • The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Published by the American Psychiatric Association. The standard guideline doctors, mental health professionals, and clinicians use.
    • Each new update and revision of the DSM anticipated as it can mean a big or small change in what each condition called, and in the criteria for diagnosing them, including ADHD.
  • 1980
    • The third edition of the DSM (DSM-III) was released the official name for the condition became attention-deficit disorder (ADD).
    • At this time, hyperactivity not considered to be a frequent symptom. Two subtypes of ADD identified:
    • ADD without hyperactivity
  • 1987
    • A revised version of the DSM-III was released.
    • The official name became attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
    • The hyperactivity considered to be an essential feature of ADHD.
  • 1994
    • The DSM-IV was published, with a slight grammar change in the name. The official name was now attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder.
    • The slash between attention-deficit and hyperactivity disorder indicated something meaningful. You could have either or both subtypes.
    • You do not need to be hyperactive to be diagnosed with ADHD. The three subtypes called:’
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, combined type
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, predominantly inattentive type
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, primarily hyperactive-impulsive type
  • 2013
    • The fifth edition of the DSM was released (DSM-5). The three subtypes of ADHD remain the same, but now they are called presentations instead of subtypes.
    • They include:
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, combined presentation
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, predominantly inattentive presentation
    • Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive presentation.
    • DSM-5 considers how symptoms present in both children and adults. It is good news, as adult ADHD overlooked in the previous DSMs.

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